Advice on Writing Wedding Vows and Their Affect on Your Marriage — Floating A Thesis

Wedding Vows are your blueprint for the life you want to create together in marriage. As Madeleine L’Engle writes in The Irrational Season: [Read more…]

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#WeddingVows based on “Letters to a Young Poet,” by Rainer Maria Rilke

I wrote these unconditional-love Wedding Vows for a couple who enjoy a good quarrel at least once a week to clear the air. By the way, unconditional love is non-judgement. I borrowed these wedding vows from one of my favorite passages on marriage, “Letters to a Young Poet,” by Rainer Maria Rilke — who gets it exactly right.
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Sovereignty #WeddingVows (Straightforward)

These are straightforward Wedding Vows, which nevertheless recognize that the two people who comprise the union always remain individuals, with his or her own ideas, beliefs, and action plans for how their happiness and purpose in life is to be fulfilled…but to the benefit of both. [Read more…]

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Romantic, Soulmate #WeddingVows

I wrote these romantic wedding vows for young, beautiful soulmates (as they characterized themselves). The Groom was better at articulating the Bride’s rapid, excited flow of ideas than the Bride herself, they told me. Their first date was a hike up a mountain where they simultaneously saw a shooting star while lying on a blanket. They’d also met some opposition in their courtship from a group of friends. [Read more…]

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Personalized #WeddingVows (Forgiveness)

Not often enough, I think, do wedding vows address how any adversity will be reconciled. You can’t honestly support and comfort someone when you think they’re off course. You always have to remain true to yourself and not lose yourself in the other’s maelstrom of emotions caused by some whacky beliefs (in your opinion). It’s a disservice to think that “supporting” someone means you have to absorb their emotions…so that they can be calm — because meanwhile, you’re a wreck…and those emotions are not even your responsibility, which ironically makes them even harder to root out. [Read more…]

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#WeddingVows Borrowed from “Sex and the City” and “Buffy the Vampire Slayer”

It was love at first sight for this couple when they met in front of a video store, so it was only natural that I researched and wrote their ceremony filled with TV-show and movie references and quotes. The Groom’s wedding vows are a variation of words spoken by Spike in the TV show, “Buffy the Vampire Slayer.” And the Bride’s wedding vows are taken from something Carrie Bradshaw typed up in the TV show, “Sex and the City.” [Read more…]

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Late Life Sweet #WeddingVows

These are Wedding Vows written for a couple who wanted a smattering of God in their ceremony, so I find “In the presence of God” a delicate way to include one’s faith without being overbearing. This couple had been in love with each other at a remove for 32 years. But on Christmas Eve, 2013, after his first wife had passed away, when he came into the department store where the future Bride worked — quite unexpectedly it would seem — she could not hold back any longer and told him forthright that she loved him and would always love him. They were married 9 months later. Their long, patient wait made their wedding ceremony all the more sweet. [Read more…]

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Romany Gypsy-Pagan-Christian #WeddingVows

I wrote this ceremony for a Groom and his Bride who had deep allegiance to her Eastern European roots, with its melding of Christian and Gypsy (Romany to be polite), but because they got married on their horse farm, there was also the element of earth and Native American custom. A challenge to blend all together, but it was really fun to research and write. [Read more…]

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Humorous #WeddingVows

I wrote these #weddingvows for a Bride and Groom (for whom English was a second language) because they prized communication in their relationship — and they loved to hug. At the start of the ceremony, before anything else, I instructed guests to greet each other with a hug, or just a handshake or wave, and it was a joy to watch. The Bride and Groom just giggled at the sight. I finally had to call the ceremony back to order. [Read more…]

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