Feelings Matter; how to deal with emotions in aftermath of a vicious, cruel remark from your spouse

As I prepare the foundation to offer a mentoring program to talk one-on-one with people who are feeling emotional distress in their relationships and marriages — a natural offshoot of being a Wedding Officiant, I feel, as a quasi love “broker” — this week’s letter to Slate magazine’s weekly advice column, “Dear Prudence,” has made the basis of this new program all the more solid. Please read it below, and then I will tell you what I’d be mentoring “Paying for Everything” to do. In advance of that, though, I’d like to stress that the beauty of the ancient technology that I’m mentoring requires no confrontational conversation to be had. It’s all accomplished in your own mind. Couples therapy this is definitely not. [Read more…]